man, once he reaches the age of puberty, is responsible for performing all salats (prayers), fasting, and the performance
of Hajj when he is financially and physically able. It is mandatory on him to attend all prayers at the mosque in congregation
if he is physically able to do so. This is especially true of Juma'ah.
PRAYER IN JUMA'AH:
in Juma'ah is acceptable only if he prays it with the Muslim Juma'ah in the mosque - since Allah ta'aalaa did not only order
Prayer but also added to it - And bow down your heads with those who bow down (in worship). [2:43] - and he is not allowed
to suffice with praying in his home and leave the Juma'ah of the Muslims. And the Messenger (S) ordered every fit and well
Muslim to pray in the Mosque and desired to burn those who remained in their houses - as occurs in 'Sahih al- Bukhari' and
'Sahih Muslim' from Abu Hurairah (R). He (S) did not burn the houses because of the presence of women and children on whom
Prayer in the mosque is not obligatory.
is another excerpt form an article by Sheikh ibn Baaz's article on prayer... <<.....During his travels, he used to practice
the two optional Rakaat before the morning prayer and also the Witr prayer (after the I'sha prayer). There is no objection
to perform these optional prayers in the mosque, but it is better to perform it at home, because the Prophet, peace and blessings
of Allah be on him, said "The best of the prayers are those which are fulfilled at one's own home, with exception to obligatory
prayers which should be performed in congregation at the mosque.">> Following are a collection of Hadith that speak
about the importance of congregational prayer... Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith -Hadith 1.631 Narrated by Abu Huraira The Prophet
said, "Allah will prepare for him who goes to the mosque (every) morning and in the afternoon (for the congregational prayer)
an honorable place in Paradise with good hospitality for (what he has done) every morning and afternoon going. -------- Sahih
Al-Bukhari Hadith - Hadith 1.619 Narrated by Abu Said Al Khudri The Prophet said, "The prayer in congregation is twenty five
times superior to the prayer offered by person alone." ------ Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith - Hadith 1.620 Narrated by Abu Huraira
Allah's Apostle said, "The reward of the prayer offered by a person in congregation is twenty five times greater than that
of the prayer offered in one's house or in the market (alone). And this is because if he performs ablution and does it perfectly
and then proceeds to the mosque with the sole intention of praying, then for every step he takes towards the mosque, he is
upgraded one degree in reward and his one sin is taken off (crossed out) from his accounts (of deeds). When he offers his
prayer, the angels keep on asking Allah's blessings and Allah's forgiveness for him as long as he is (staying) at his Musalla.
They say, 'O Allah! Bestow Your blessings upon him, be Merciful and kind to him.' And one is regarded in prayer as long as
one is waiting for the prayer."
in regards to marriage
the Qur'an and the Sunnah of the Prophet have commanded kindness to women, it is the husband's duty to consort with his wife
in an equitable and kind manner."1 This means that he is responsible for her maintenance, and that of any
children, he cannot abuse nor keep her in suspense or uncertainty. If he feels that he cannot fulfill his obligations
to her then he must let her go in peace and justice. He should not force her to seek Khul (divorce by the wife) just
to get a return of the Mahr (dowry), for in this case, she would be entitled to keep it. I have gone into this in more
depth under Divorce.
article below has a list of guidelines for the husband.
Family Etiquettes: A Husband's
Responsibilities towards his family
Dr. Marwaan Al-Qaisee
Translation: Al-Muntaqaa Newsletter Staff (see Issue 2).
The family is that brick which forms the foundation of a society. It is composed of individuals that have permanent
relations established between them. Most importantly, it possesses almost a majority of the different kinds of personal relations.
of this, there must be certain etiquettes placed in order to control and regulate these relations. This is such that it can
be maintained in the best possible manner, and so that it can generate and produce its proper fruits. Family relations consist
of the relationship between the spouses from one perspective, the relationship between the parents and the children from a
second perspective, and the relationship between the children themselves from a third perspective.
of the husband
It is not from the deficiencies, but rather from good manners, that the husband shares in the responsibility of specified
matters, such as the mending of garments or what is similar to that.
It is appropriate for a man to not restrict himself from serving himself. This is since the wife takes care of the household
affairs. So therefore, it is from good manners that the husband extend a helping hand to his wife in the house, during times
of necessity, such as when she is sick, pregnant, has given birth or similar to that.
The exemplary husband is he who cooperates with his wife by bearing good relations and showing kind manners (to her), according
to the full extent of the meaning contained in these (last) two expressions. Truly, the husbands who are best at working alongside
their wives are the best of mankind in the view of Islam. This good way of living between the spouses must be deeply imbedded
into the daily marital life, even at the time of divorce.
Beware of characterizing the relationship between the spouses with over-seriousness! For indeed characterizing the family
life with a militaristic nature amounts to one of the causes for failure and bad results.
From the kind and noble manners of the husband is that he complies and assents to the requests of his wife, so long as they
are not forbidden in the Religion. And being luxurious in food, drink and clothing is at the entrance of matters forbidden
in the Religion.
The husband should specify a time in which he can play around and pass free time with his wife.
The relationship between the spouses must contain one singular and specific nature. And it cannot be this way unless the couple
begins demolishing all the obstacles and impediments that stand between them. For example, the husband should not feel timid
and restrain himself from drinking out of the same cup that his wife drinks out of.
There is no human being that is perfect. So there is no doubt that the husband will see things in his wife that does not comply
with his natural disposition and preferences. If these aspects are not in opposition to the fundaments of the Religion or
to the obedience of the husband and his rights, then at that point, he should not try to change her personality so that it
complies with his natural preference.
And he must always remember that for each member of the couple, there will be an aspect of ones personality that conflicts
with the others personality. And he should also remember that if there are some characteristics that he doesn't find pleasing
in his wife, then indeed she has other characteristics, which will definitely be pleasing to him.
Do not let Ramadan be a barrier that impedes you from showing affection to your wife, such as by kissing her. But this is
so long as you are able to refrain yourself, since what is forbidden during the days of Ramadan is only sexual intercourse.
Do not chase after the errors of your wife and recount them to her, for too much blaming and reprimanding will worsen the
relationship between the two of you, and it will pose a threat to your marital life. So overlook your wife's easy ability
to make mistakes, and make her falling into them seem like something small.
If you are able, do not hold back from providing your wife with good clothing and food, and from being generous in spending
money on her. This is of course according to the extent of your ability.
Do not give little importance to implementing the punishment required for any acts in opposition to the Religion, which your
wife has committed, whether it is in the home or outside it. This should be the main reason that causes you to become angry,
thus no other reason should affect you (besides this one).
What has been stated previously does not mean that you should leave matters alone until that result comes to happen. Thus,
whenever you realize that a matter is left alone, weigh it with seriousness and determination, without being too harsh or
rude about it.
The woman is the head of the household, the one responsible for it. So do not attempt to meddle into affairs that do not fall
into your area of duties and responsibilities, such as the food and the order of the house.
Beware of scolding your wife or blaming her for a mistake she committed, in the presence of others, even if they are your
own children. For indeed that is an act that goes against correct behavior and it will lead to raising anger in the hearts
If you are forced to place punishment upon your wife, then let it be by staying away from her at bedtime. And do not boycott
her except that it is done within the household. And avoid using foul language, insulting her, beating her and describing
her with repulsive names. For these matters do not befit an exemplary husband.
Having jealousy and caring about the modesty of your wife is a praiseworthy thing, which shows your love for her. However
it is on the condition that you do not go to great extremes in this jealousy. For then at that point, it would turn into something
worthy of no praise.
Entering the house: Do not alarm your family by entering upon them suddenly. Rather, enter while they are aware of it, and
greet them with Salaam. And ask about them and how they are doing. And do not forget to remember Allah, the Mighty and Sublime,
when you enter the house.
Beware of spreading any secrets connected with the intimate encounters you have with your wife, for that is something restricted
Constantly maintain the cleaning of your mouth and the freshening of your breath.
Guardianship of your wife doesn't mean that you can exploit what Allah has bestowed upon you from taking charge of her, such
that you harm and oppress her.
Showing respect and kindness to your wife's family is showing respect and kindness to her. And this applies even after her
death, on the condition that it is not accompanied by an act forbidden in the Religion, such as intermingling of the sexes
or being in privacy (with them).
Too much joking will lead to (your family having) little fear (of disobeying you) and a lack of respect for you. So do not
joke too much with your wife.
Be considerate that fulfilling the conditions which you promised to your wife during the pre-marriage agreement is a matter
possessing the highest of importance and priority. So do not neglect that after getting married.
When you lecture your wife or reprimand her or simply speak to her, choose the kindest and nicest of words and expressions
for your speech. And do not reprimand her in front of others or in front of your children.
It is not proper for you to ask your wife to look for work outside of the house or to spend upon you from her wealth.
Do not overburden your wife with acts that she is not able to handle. Consider, with extreme regard, the environment she was
raised up in. Rural service is not like urban service, and the service of a strong woman and her preparation for it is not
like the service of a weak woman.